October Blog posted in Mental Health
For many people, the bond between a mother and child is considered one of the strongest and most important relationships in life. However, for some individuals, this bond may be fraught with pain, disappointment, and even trauma. Mother's Day is a time to celebrate the mothers in our lives, however it can also be a reminder of the pain and trauma associated with the "mother wound".
Actress and public figure Mona Monyane knows this struggle all too well, which is why she is joining us in our exclusive parenting session. Join us as we explore the power of forgiveness, re-parenting yourself, and breaking negative patterns to heal the mother wound and build healthier relationships with ourselves and others. The mother wound is the emotional pain experienced as a result of a strained or absent relationship with one's mother, and it can have long-lasting effects on our mental and emotional health.
It is essential to recognize when we need healing from the mother wound. If you feel a deep sense of emptiness, loneliness, or unworthiness, or struggle with feelings of anger, resentment, or anxiety when thinking about your mother, it may be a sign that you need to address this wound. Suppressing these emotions can lead to further harm, so it is important to take the time to acknowledge and process them.
Healing the mother wound can be a complex and challenging process, but it is essential for our well-being. Here are some steps you can take to start your healing journey:
- Seek support: Healing from the mother wound can be a lonely journey, so it's important to seek support from a therapist or trusted friend who can provide a safe space for you to process your emotions.
- Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is essential for healing. Engage in activities that bring you joy, like exercise, meditation, or creative pursuits.
- Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the hurtful behavior, but it does mean releasing the anger and resentment you feel towards your mother. Forgiveness is a process, but it is essential for your own well-being.
- Set boundaries: If your relationship with your mother is toxic or harmful, it may be necessary to set boundaries to protect yourself. This can include limiting contact or cutting off contact altogether.
- Build a new relationship: Healing the mother wound doesn't necessarily mean repairing the relationship with your mother, but it does mean building a healthy and positive relationship with yourself. Cultivate self-love and self-compassion, and seek out positive relationships with others.
Healing the mother wound is not an easy journey, but it is one that is worth taking. By acknowledging and addressing the pain and trauma associated with the mother wound, we can break the cycle of generational trauma and build healthier relationships with ourselves and others.
"Forgiving my mother encouraged me to explore the freedom of owning the parts of my motherhood, she couldn't be for me and expressing them to my daughter in a way I have always wanted to experience motherly love”, says actress Mona Monyane. Join her in the Forest this Wednesday at 8pm as she unpacks her healing journey. Click here to set a reminder.
Posted by Khwezi Mabunda